Okay, so I disappeared for a while. I laid out exactly what I want and I…totally jumped ship! Not totally. I dated a few guys. A few good guys. None really went past 5 dates. There could be loads said here; I don’t know a good thing when I see it, I shouldn’t have to compromise chemistry for quality, quality for chemistry, they just weren’t quite “the one,” or at least not “the one” enough to blog home about. Whatever! I have slayed myself open and blogged the crap out of my past. I’m done with it. It’s about action now!
Phase 1 is the first step in my new dating game. I know, I know…it sounds gimmicky and it totally is but to make it better we’re going to call it a STRATEGY! The strategy in phase 1 is to date my friends boyfriends and husbands…don’t worry, my friends are totally on board! Why do it? Because these men are worth more than their weight in gold. My friends have superman men! And I’m going to date them! Call it brilliant, call it the power of attraction, call it practice, call it crazy, I don’t care…I call it momentum!
With every guy I date I know that on one level or another I’m getting closer. So, why not throw in a bunch of guys I’m guaranteed are winners! Obviously, they aren’t real boyfriend potential but their potential for insight, and information is massive. And it doesn’t hurt that they already love me. This can only serve me well when I’m playing one on one for keeps!
Tonight was my non-date “date” with Todd. While I knew that it wasn’t really a date it was nice to sit down one on one with a man and think the person accross from me is really great. It got me excited about the possilbity again. I can’t speak for Todd but there were elements that were first date-esque…we didn’t really know each other too well so there was lots to share! And it in this sense…it was a good first date because I wanted to share. There’s nothing worse than going out with someone and, despite having 30 some-odd years of life prior to our meeting, we feel like there’s not much to say!! But this was not the case tonight, conversation about work and life today flowed easily into a larger picture commentary i.e. education practices and finally, the reason for our “date”, dating!
Todd is going to write about book about dating, online dating specifically and I’m going to be one of his many case studies! This isn’t necessarily Todd’s plan, though it’s not a bad idea, as he is the man who SHOULD write a book about online dating. Not only is he in a very successful relationship with one of my favourite people whom he met online but he’s thoroughly investigated the topic. Through his own experience, research, and the experiences of his friends he’s developed a system! A system he’s going to put into practice for me.
Look out boys…I’m back in the dating game and I’ve got expert allies! Todd has been given the link to this here blog so that he can get the nitty gritty on me and relationships. With this information plus ourconversation tonight and I imagine a few more conversations he’s going to create my profile! He’s even given me tips of how many and what kind of photos to post. Then, begins the conversation…a somewhat personalized form letter that allows for a bit more specific information that continues the weeding out process. His whole strategy is about maximizing quality and minimizing output and false hopes…two major momentum killers with online dating.
I love it! I never really thought to have a strategy… Cinderella didn’t have a strategy and she got her prince. Rapuzel needed a prince to come up with a strategy. And, Sleeping Beauy napped through the whole dating process, woke up and got married to her prince…since happily ever after is all I’ve been after, why the hell would it ever occur to me to have a strategy for dating?
Non-date date #2 is on Saturday with Jonny! Breakfast! I can’t wait to see what he’s gonna teach me!